For an unhealthy relationship, get out of it no need to hang on

Just a few days ago, we were treated with some shocking news of an army man who allegedly shot his girlfriend before turning the gun on himself. According to the neighbors, the two had a heated argument which arose after this man was dumped by the girlfriend with reports that she was dishing him for another man.

Looking at this incident, one wonders how a romantic relationship gone sour could mean that it’s either such a couple remain together in may be forced love or if anyone decides otherwise, death is the only option. What happened to moral lessons of being in a healthy relationship that clearly shows that its worth for the two lover birds being together.

How compatible are you with your current partner, lover or friend? Did you know that אסטרולוגיה can reveal a whole new level of understanding between people simply by looking at their astrology chart and that of their partner? What are the potentials for the relationship? Everyone wants to believe that they get along well with others but we have all met people with whom we didn’t get along well. Wouldn’t it be nice to know ahead of time whether or not two people are compatible? Whether your partner / spouse is going to cheat in a relationship? It would save a lot of time and effort. In 12 months period every year you see cold weather, warm weather, rainy season, and sometimes witness earth quakes, hurricanes, and tornados. In the same manner in relationship you will see good times, bad times, good sex, love, romance, sickness, bad health, accidents, loss of job, loss of money etc. Couples who are compatible will stay together during good or bad times and will support each other. Couples who are not compatible will be together during good times and they separate when the challenging time comes in their lives. It is like this, when you have a nice bottle of champagne on your table everybody likes you. The moment the bottle gets empty, people leave and you are left alone. The compatibility between two people has to be at many different levels to be happy in a relationship. Astrological compatibility or Relationship Compatibility Astrology or Business Compatibility Astrology is the branch of astrology that studies relationships between two people by comparing their natal horoscopes for Astrology Compatibility or Relationship Compatibility or Business Compatibility. A natal horoscope is a chart, map, or imaginary snapshot of the planets in the Solar System and their positions in the zodiac at the exact time of a person’s birth.

This incident clearly shows that you are in love today but any form of misunderstanding brings about uncontrolled anger that may lead to something fatal even when those involved have been in love even if for a long time. (learn more about of how to cope with a relationship here thegirlfriendactivationsystem.com) I have always thought that better a broken relationship that a failed marriage but after this incident, this definitely have created some reservations. If your relationship has flatly failed, why can’t you just leave it and move on in peace?

In this case, something might have been brewing that this girl felt that she was not okay in this relationship but too bad that her man was reading from another page of the book. This incident attracted massive comments and I saw someone mention that maybe this man may had invested heavily in terms of finances like may be educating this girl being the reason why he couldn’t stomach her leaving him. Learn about how to last longer in bed for men. But the question that arises here is; should partners courting entrust using their money on a relationship that is not clear whether it’s healthy or unhealthy?

I think its good to always examine your relationship closely before taking things seriously deep inside yet it seems like there are predictions hanging over the two of you in love. Now that they are both dead, only a vacuum that has been left with both families wishing that had they confined in anyone, maybe this ought not to have been the case. It’s one thing to be in love, then having that secure feeling that your relationship means a lot to you two thus calls for commitment but if things change for the worse, then take the break-up positively and move on.

What to Avoid In a New Love Relationship

It is very easy to fall in love with someone, but hard to live with it. Love itself is as free as gases we breathe in, but maintaining love lifestyle needs more than what you may have thought of in the first place.

Now before you feel it is time to express your feelings to that one special person that your heart id dying for, there are a few things that you need to free from your mind first.

Your ex,

Most of us have been in a relationship that did not work. We may be influenced to carry the same mistake we made into the new love relationship. This is a big ‘NO’! Everyone on earth is unique and should be addressed as such. People often make a mistake by comparing the ex to the new catch, and even going ahead saying negative things about the ex. For your information, no one wants to hear something about your past love life.

Too busy,

There are habits that do not any value in your love life. Most relationships survive for a long time because the parties involved give it much of their time and resources than anything else. People who do not have time for each other have no reason to whine about bad relationship because they are usually he cause of all that might happen afterwards.

Talk about it, include all that might affect the future of your relationship and know how to deal with them. Let that person understand everything about you and make a decision based on the views about it. If the person accepts all then it is good to go.

Unrealistic Approaches,

Well, it is easy to say a lie than how it is to tell the truth. Trust me! Everything you say about yourself will be verified later as time goes on. This is why you need to say all about you, negative your thick bitter past…

Being unrealistic makes a relationship to hang on balance. You only need to be yourself and let the person take it from there. In other words, a relationship based on lies only leads into problems in future. You do not want that to happen.

These three are just among major vices that makes love life very difficult and might lead to break up. Avoiding them is very easy. Just be yourself, have time for him or her and forget about anything else that does not matter to you.

Apparently, Love and Marriage Is Nothing Unless…. Gain Some Weight

According to a certain community in Kenya, love and marriage is only secure if they see their daughter adding some weight. This, to them, is a clear indication that she is having a happy life and being taken care of well.

To them, love is nothing but an illusion that brings lonely hearts together. Then after that is life with or without love. And that love is only seen when a woman gains weight— a pure indication that the man is providing well for her.

This is so absurd, in this time and age we expected people to understand love life much better. It is obvious that we, people, do not eat love. But gaining weight has nothing to do with love and happiness. As it has been confirmed scientifically that some people gains weight when they are sad or when they are depressed.

As other women fight with their weight, some communities in Kenya still believe that adding some extra Kgs after marriage is the only way the third parties could know how happy the family is.

In Kenya, some people in middle class society love being fatty fatty. According to them, being a heavy weight tells the world one is financially secure and that he or she is leading a good life.

One house wife was heard saying.

Look at me and look at them. Being skinny means your husband is giving you stress instead of providing for you….

This kind of mentality runs down to most Kenyan’s mind. They see skinny but healthy people as poor while they identify a heavy weight person as someone with riches.

Recently, a man lost his wife just because he could not fatten her for the period of time they had stayed together. According to her family, she was leading a very bad life and that she deserved better than wasting her life with someone who could not make her add some weight. Weird but that is the reality!

So love life is nothing if gaining weight is not part of the family. Life is crazier that how to seems like in Kenya.

A Friend With One Mysterious Dirty Secret

In those days, I was in High School, a mixed school in Nairobi county where I had time with a few great people who still linger in my mind. I remember one time when I asked one girl, a student, what that one thing she wishes never happened in her life. In my amazement, she took my note-book and wrote the following short poetic story:

My heart cries him,

My tears have not yet dried down,

I can feel him in my heart,

But I can’t hold him,

Touch his hands,

Say I love you in whispers…

Long gone,

Gone from my life,

But still there in my heart..

So vivid is his image..

My true lost love.

I was touched by this piece that I remember a drop of fresh tear running down my scared cheek. Well, I did not have courage enough to  ask who he was, how important he was and why she just could not let go.

Yep! I chose to inquire more about her love life, her family and everything that might bring out the reality in her life. He close friend told me that she is a reserved person who hardly share something personal with her friends. That was something! Then why me?

Another person who happened to be her neighbor said that he does not know much about her because they moved in from an unknown place and that the family is not that close to neighbors. Okay, that was a dead-end!

I happened to know her brother from a neighboring school. So, I just made a move for friendship before digging further into their life. There I found out that their father died some years ago but his death hit his sister more than anyone else. That was when I was face with the last ‘why’ that only her could give me the right answer.

It was then that I decided to go and start a conversation that lead me to posing that one big question. I was already ready for the consequences.

Her only answers was like,

You already know why, and I don’t have to explain things that are so obvious’

Well, I understood her perfectly well. But I could not connect the dots to see how that was possible…

 

Partners discussing one another with third parties

A Muslim couple being wed alongside the Tungab...

A Muslim couple being wed alongside the Tungabhadra River at Hampi, India. In the background, a Hindu man is taking his ritual bath. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Communication for married couples is very important because you need one another’s views for the success of your staying together. But I remember a radio show a few days ago whereby different participants how they felt about this issue. But it turned to be like a blame game as both men and women took this chance to trade accusations as to who is in the wrong when it comes to displaying marital issues to a third party.

So this lady called and said that for any women who go ahead to discuss their husbands with other married women, it was for the sake of getting help. She went ahead and said that your experiencing something with your man and how you went about may after all help another woman in the same situation. She also said men cannot plead innocence in all this because they also discuss their wives with the side chick so as to really show that she is the better option as far as his marital status is concerned.

Then this other man said that it is wrong for any woman to go out there and discuss he man with other married women. He further added that women do not realize that they are enemies of themselves since whatever problem that you are naively sharing with them will still find itself to other uninterested parties. He also said that the minute a woman thinks that taking the husband’s problems to her pals will be of any help, that’s where she loses track because she only becomes a laughing stock.

I think may it be anyone’s wife or husband, there is no way that you can entrust the solution of your problems with a third party. It’s only viable that two partners seat down together and discuss any pressing issue and devise the way forward.

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