You Should Not Hate Her Because OF Her Weight

A few weeks ago, it was in the print media how married women were really adding weight after the first few years of their marriage. This made the opening remarks on morning radio show where the listeners aired their take on this issue of the weight gain. The question that arose here was whether the women were responsible for their upward growth in terms of weight.

While listening to what the listeners had to say about this, it became obvious that most men hated their women due to having gained a lot of weight .One caller said that most women go about eating a lot of foods, being lazy and so the end result of this is definitely gaining lots of weight. He also added that they do not take time to even think what this lifestyle may do to them.

But even if most women tend to gain some weight after being married, there are many factors that may lead to this scenario. I remember a response to a blogger concerning fat women who really outlined lots of negativity to such women after she wrote that they are fat and cannot run from this fact. Somebody else responded to this writer that being fat does not mean what someone eating but rather is what is eating them up. By this I mean, there are women out there who will add some weight when they are stressed up.

So I was here thinking that as a man, should you feel alarmed if your wife starts gaining weight? I think that we should all appreciate that a change is something inevitable in us as human beings. By this I mean adding weight is part of a physical appearance that is still subject to change and so in this case, no man should expect the wife to remain slender like when they first moved in as a couple.

So let’s live to the vows that we exchanged before our relatives and friends and not use lame excuses as to why you find your wife no longer attractive. It only happens in the mind when you start thinking your wife has added so much weight yet this is not what really matters for the two of you to be happily married.

Apparently, Love and Marriage Is Nothing Unless…. Gain Some Weight

According to a certain community in Kenya, love and marriage is only secure if they see their daughter adding some weight. This, to them, is a clear indication that she is having a happy life and being taken care of well.

To them, love is nothing but an illusion that brings lonely hearts together. Then after that is life with or without love. And that love is only seen when a woman gains weight— a pure indication that the man is providing well for her.

This is so absurd, in this time and age we expected people to understand love life much better. It is obvious that we, people, do not eat love. But gaining weight has nothing to do with love and happiness. As it has been confirmed scientifically that some people gains weight when they are sad or when they are depressed.

As other women fight with their weight, some communities in Kenya still believe that adding some extra Kgs after marriage is the only way the third parties could know how happy the family is.

In Kenya, some people in middle class society love being fatty fatty. According to them, being a heavy weight tells the world one is financially secure and that he or she is leading a good life.

One house wife was heard saying.

Look at me and look at them. Being skinny means your husband is giving you stress instead of providing for you….

This kind of mentality runs down to most Kenyan’s mind. They see skinny but healthy people as poor while they identify a heavy weight person as someone with riches.

Recently, a man lost his wife just because he could not fatten her for the period of time they had stayed together. According to her family, she was leading a very bad life and that she deserved better than wasting her life with someone who could not make her add some weight. Weird but that is the reality!

So love life is nothing if gaining weight is not part of the family. Life is crazier that how to seems like in Kenya.

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