When two lovers come together in the institution of marriage, it’s obvious to encounter challenges or problems which if couples face them together then they are set to be heading towards the right direction. But the question that they both need to ask themselves is; is it my problem or our problem? Let both partners pick up our problem route and then start from there. When the two lovers said ’I DO’, it meant that they vowed to be there for one another in all times should be in happiness and even in hardships.
Our problem means that when the two partners came together in the institution of marriage, they both became one and so anything that comes their way is better solved by both. Let them feel that they are part of the problem since it’s always true that two are better than one. Then no need for arguments as this only wastes more time.
First if one partner has a problem that is proving hard to sort out, let him or her tell it to his or her partner. Remember a pressing issue shared even when challenging is better off examined closely and discussed with both partners. They should discuss what really happened for them to find themselves in a problematic situation. Is it something that was done that was not necessary or is it a slight mistake that led to the problem? At this point there is no need of dwelling on who did this or that. The main point here is to look for a solution as it’s the only way to move forward.
Then they should not only be one in times of problems but also let them be one in parenting roles. Let the children in the family feel they have two parents who love them and let them be their role model of oneness.