Abuse in a marriage, which can be verbal or physical, has become prevalent in most marriages and this has seen most of them go down into the drain. And since marriage is the union of two lover birds, it’s obvious to find the victim who has been abused trying to still cling to love of the oppressor and not being able to let it go even if they are separated. Some women will even claim that despite their ex-husbands being abusive, they are wonderful men and they hope they may get themselves another partner to live with. But they are quick to point out that they cannot go back to their ex-husbands.
Like for this scenario, this lady was beaten up and always verbally abused by her ex-husband. However, she blamed her mother-in- law for all her marriage woos whom she said that she had a say in whatever her son did to her. She at first persevered being in the abusive marriage for some years but she one felt that she had enough of this and walked out of the marriage. But even after being away for an year, she was still madly in love with her ex-husband, she still thought of him and also missed him and his company. Funny enough even if she felt that she was missing something in her life, she was adamant of never going back to him.
This other lady was also physically abused for quite sometime until she opted to leave the marriage. She felt that being married at an early age had derived her part of life. So she could now enjoy that life that was taken away from her by being married a young lady and true to her words, she was okay being single. But all in all she still missed and loved her ex-husband even though she never contemplated of ever going back to him.
I think love is a special feeling towards your partner and that is why it’s a thing that you find that most people break-up but are unable to let go off the love that they once had for their partner.