No Uplifting and No Respect Won’t do

If a man can’t find himself uplifting his woman then he may lose her and vice versa. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations that are extremely unhealthy. Filled with pain, anger, and lack of compassion. No one wants to feel unloved. Men should be respectful but they should especially be respectful to the mother or mothers of their children.

If things are dysfunctional then perhaps a separation may be necessary. A lot of times people throw sorry’s around but still project the same behavior. We can’t expect “unity” when there’s anger in the mix. Where emotions are fueld by control. Someone is bound to run in the other direction. If a man has fallen out of love with his wife or girlfriend then he should move on and not hold her life up.

He shouldn’t be disrespectful towards her at anytime even if she is. A angry and surly man won’t win the heart of a woman. He may not be able to keep her. If he demonstrates harmful behavior towards her he may feel alone. Woman want to be caressed and want to be appreciated. When those things are missing she will feel a disconnection. A man’s put downs can be another man’s uplifts for that woman. Not saying that people should seek attention from another but everyone wants to feel loved.

God made a companion for man and woman is the companion. Yes, we should seek God and Jesus’s love but we’re not meant to live alone. We shouldn’t be so desperate for love that we’d rather tolerate desrespect. If a man is unable to love the one he’s with then perhaps he should consider moving on. Sometimes people become disconnected. If God isn’t in it then there will certainly be a disconnection.

Love is a strong emotion and it can heal a broken heart. Men neef love as well as women. God made us to give, to learn about Him and His son, and to love. Without love there’s trouble. We can’t feel a connection if there’s no love. Sometimes a man has to be alone in order to get himself together. If he doesn’t put God first then he will be consumed with anguish. “Love” brings people together.

Envy Destroys Relationships

When envy presents itself, it can really create an end to any relationship, it can cause deep pain. If one chooses to be envious of another’s accomplishments or whatever they have in their lives then they risk losing whatever friendship or relationship there is. People who are envious will intentionally hurt the persons their envious of.

They either want what they have or they want them to stop shinning. Once a person displays that they have an envious nature then it’s best to eliminate time spent with them. Sometimes we may find that the people closest to us are the ones who display envious character. We may feel pain because we didn’t expect them to make us feel this way. The best thing to do when dealing with envy is to acknowledge that it exist but refuse to allow it in our space.

People who are envious will be on the attack. They may not be suited for friendship or if they’re a relative then one may have to distance themselves from their relatives. We don’t have to accept being attackedin anyway and we certainly don’t have to accept envious attacks.

It’s unfortunate when people can’t be happy for people who are trying to advance. It’s something we will have to deal with and understand that envious people exist. Just like evil exist. We may feel disappointined and sad when we come in contact with people who are envious towards us but time will allow healing.

We can choose to remain cordial with those individuals who chose to attack us but we don’t have to tolerate their behavior. Envy destroys and it disconnects. Some people may not ever stop being envious. Some may perceive their envious ways as being good but they are so wrong. Protect yourselves against envious people. They don’t deserve to be apart of your life. Instead of displaying envy. People should choose to display love.

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Blame it on Everything Else

Sometimes we come in contact with someone who is so broken and they haven’t quite learned how to be functional. They over spend and blame it on the wife not being a “helpmate.” They pretend to do so much good but will rarely give to the needy. When a man takes it upon himself to punish a woman for anything he is only hurting himself. When he allows his ego to get the best of him and he spins out of control. When a man looks at life as work and doesn’t allow God or giving in his life then he will sink in misery.

If he doesn’t love himself then it would be impossible for him to love anyone else. His broken spirit will create a riff with all who come in contact with him. When he feels no joy but works the majority of his life without showing the benefits. He will become angry and feel unfulfilled. When he builds no bond with his children and they wonder why he’s in such a state. He may blame it on his wife but if he looks in the mirror closely and ask God to reveal to him who he really is then it shall be revealed.

There’s more to a man than work. If his work hasn’t create a secure home for his family and he refused to stop using his mother as a crutch then it would be difficult for him to function without those conditions. Sometimes mothers hold on so tight and the man becomes a boy when he should be a man. He may become selfish and feel that material things will satisfy him but if God isn’t in the mix then he will not be satisfied. He will toss and turn and he’ll try to knock others down to make himself feel good.

If a man constantly threatens a woman that she can not do without him then he is just reveling his vulnerability. He demonstrates the fear. The fear comes through the anger. His he really angry with the woman, the world, or his he really angry with himself? If a man feels the need to put a woman down because of her accomplishments then what is he telling himself and others about him? Men are the stronger vessel but so many are so damaged that their strength seems faded. They become trapped in their own world of rights and they may see no wrong in anything that they do.

If they are unable to treat women properly then they are doing a disservice to society. If they’re only concerned about their needs then they can’t possibly have a stability in a relationship. If all their frustrations is blamed on what someone else didn’t do then they’re filled with despair. They’re cares may only be provided if there’s something in it for them. When confronted about their actions they may rare up and become filled with rage. They may hold on do to their fear of being alone.

The man may try to convince a woman that she can not live without him and that no one will want her. He tries to brainwash her into thinking that she has no value or worth but as soon as someone comes long and convinces that she does. He will try to fight as if he’s been so concerned all along. His love isn’t there because he never learned to love himself. Deep down he really can’t stand women, he can’t stand their success, or their job titles. He has to compete with them and it angers him.

Any woman being able to put up with his control and anger will become like a slave to him. He may stay in a relationship to punish the woman. He may believe that the woman has no fight in her. That fighting with fists but with prayer and the mind. When he feels he’s losing a grip then he will try other tactics so that she’s looked upon as a nobody but his tactics on’t work because God on’t allow it. His life is based on being accepted for his work and not good deeds or helping others. How can his heart be healed through anger and malice? How?

Don’t Appreciate me God has A Plan

No,no,no the one that’s there gets no respect. Why? I mean it makes no sense. How many men would appreciate hot meals, back rubs, fresh hair cuts for free? Well, that hubby didn’t. Oh no. What kind of man looks at his wife on the ground and doesn’t try to help her up? Terrible.

Why would a husband try to compete with his wife? A wife isn’t a competitor. She’s a wife. You’re suppose to care for her and cherish her. My goodness. Why wouldn’t you spend time with your children? Selfish. Trying to make your wife look bad and trying to claim my ideas. Get your own. Laughing at me when I’m in pain. Is that what husbands are suppose to do?

Getting upset when you don’t get your way. “Stand on Your Feet.” Stop relying on your mother to get everything for you. Shopping like there’s no tomorrow and putting all your orders in my name. I don’t wear men watches, size 11 Lebron shoes, and I don’t need to order clothes I’m not going to wear. That’s how water and lights get shut off. Don’t worry. Your mom will cover for you. From Boy to boy. Sometimes men aren’t allowed to be men. Perhaps they should “stand alone.”

How many husbands are envious of their wives or children’s achievements? That’s not how it’s suppose to be. You should support your children. Encourage them to do better. You should want them to excel. If the husband is out of order then the whole family is out of order. The husband is the head and the leader. He should be guiding his children and setting an example.

Becoming angry when they put your shoes on. Well, you took the shoes away, what kid wouldn’t want a nice pair of shoes on their feet? They may say, “I want some Lebron shoes,” seiko watch or some MCM beats. The ones that make good grades should receive something. Everything for yourself. Spending like crazy and allowing your mother to take care of you. Shame, shame, shame. Men should be men. No relationship with your children is just awful.

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