Category: Negative Environments

Surrounding Ourselves Around Positive People is Important



Imagine being around a group of negative people everyday. Can you imagine what that would do to one’s mental health? Negativity is like a dumpster filled with overflowing trash. That’s why motivational speakers are constantly insisting that we find people who have the same or similar goals as we do. We all have bad days but there’s some who are never or rarely positive. Those are people we should limit our time with or avoid altogether.

Positivity will help us along the way. We can get more done when we surround ourselves with positive people. If we find ourselves around negativity then we should quickly find some positive words or information to process. We don’t want negative thoughts to be embedded in our minds. It can eat away at us like a disease. We can choose to accept negative communications or not. Sometimes we intake way too much information. We can discard some of it, especially if it isn’t beneficial to us, and if it won’t add any value to our lives.

Sometimes people are unaware of how negative they are and once it’s brought to their attention they try to work on it. There’s some who may choose to be negative over being positive. We can separate ourselves from the negative bunch. We should find positive activities to engage in. That will help us if we’re constantly being exposed to negativity. The world won’t be filled with all positives but we should digest as much positivity as we can.

Some of us are living in environments where there’s more negativity than positivity and the behaviors end up being apart of us. If we find that we’re becoming negative then we should find activities that will generate positivity for us. Our mental health is important and it can be affected by being surrounded by too much negativity. We should try to engage in healthy conversations.

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Negative Environments and Negative People Don’t mix

Sometimes we find ourselves in a negative environment and although we may be trying to come out of it, we’re still in it, and it can be damaging to our health. Negative environments can cause of to feel horrible. If we’re in a negative environment for too long then we will become negative. Negativity is a destroyer. It’s important that we find positive surroundings and positive people to be around. Some people may not understand just how draining negativity is.

Sometimes it’s in our homes. For some they may have to deal with negativity everyday because it’s in the workplace and even in church. It doesn’t matter where negativity lands. We don’t have to deal with it. It’s possible to shut negativity out. Some environments will always have negativity in it and that’s unfortunate but that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t visit these environments. We can offer some positivity and if the negativity is weighing us down then we should limit our time there or remove ourselves altogether.

Dealing With Negative People

Some may wonder how they’ll be able to deal with negative people. You know, those people who are headed your way, but you end up going the other way. Some people don’t realize how negative they are. In fact we’ve all been negative in some ways. When we’re exposed to excessive negativity. We become adapted to it. We shouldn’t be exposed to negativity all of the time. It generates stress and it creates chaos. The best way to deal with negative people is to allow project some positivity. If they become overly negative then we may want to avoid them altogether. Sometimes we’re unable to do something about someone’s negative communications or negative thinking.

Negative people are that way for a number of reasons. They could be having a bad day or something isn’t going right in their lives. We may not take time out to find out why some people are so negative and sometimes it create more issues trying to figure it out. We should try to embrace them and if that doesn’t work then we may need to distance ourselves from them. Negative people don’t have to be apart of our lives but sometimes it can’t be helped. We should try to be positive and that can be difficult at times but as long as we’re making an effort that’s better than not making one.

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How to be Positive When Exposed to Social Media Garbage

Social media has its pros and cons. It supplys us with the good and the bad. It can be a very informative platform or it can be a depressing and disturbed platform. Spending too much time on social media can be damaging to our mental health. That’s why some have chosen not to have an account or to delete their account.

Bullying takes place on social media and it can be a dysfunctional place at times. Even youth have chosen to spend little to no time on social media. Social media was designed to help individuals engage with one another and to provide us with information. It is now being used as a platform to harass and antagonize others. It doesn’t seem to provide protection for it’s members. Some sites may be concerned about users.

How to Stay Positive While on Social Media

The best thing to do when using social media is to spend less time there. If you’re a frequent user then you may want to lessen your time on social mefia platforms. When coming across demeaning or bullying comments it is wise to block or totally avoid the comments. If you witness something that is riddled with negativity then you should quickly think of something positive. It isn’t healthy to allow too much negativity in our minds.

If you find that social media is causing irritation then spend very little time there or none at all. Not everyone utilizes social media for business or for socializing. Some want to create disturbances for others because they believe that they’re anonymous. It can be overwhelming if it’s utilized too often.

There’s positivity on social media. Sometimes you will have to search for it and other times it’s right in front of us. The key is to disconnect from the negativity and find outlets that inspire as well as encourages socializing. A lot of teens have disconnected from social media because of harassment and bullying. It can be a negative place but there’s something positivity on such platforms.

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When There’s a lot to be Accomplished you Have to Mentally Block Things out

Whenever you’re trying to accomplish something. There may be noise and if you expect to accomplish anything you will need to block the noise out and keep moving. The Life Jolie 2015 says, “But seriously, when it comes to the noise that is thrown at us from other people, it is so important not to get sucked in.” People’s opinions, their lack of support, and their shouts should not prevent us from accomplishing whatever it is we need and want to accomplish. If we keep our focus on the noise then we won’t be able to focus on the important things and that’s making headway for our future.

No matter what we do. There will be noise whether it’s on our jobs, in our homes, or in another destination. We will either fall into the noise trap or we will keep moving and forget that it’s going on. The fact is, people will try to hinder us from doing something, and they may try to get us off course but it shouldn’t detour us from the path. So many will give up when there’s too much noise and when people are trying to bring them down. We can’t control what others say but we can do something about how we react to whatever they’re trying to do.

Noise happens whether we want it to or not. Anyone trying to prevent you from doing something that will better your life are noise makers. Noise makers exist and we should be aware of this. Giving up on whatever you’re trying to accomplish shouldn’t be within your thoughts because you’ve faced one of the challenges that come along with doing something out of the norm. Even if movement is slow it should still occur. No amount of noise should detour a person from reaching their destination.

“The Noise is There to get you off Track. Ignore and Proceed.” Don’t allow anyone to stop you from performing or obtaining what you deserve. It doesn’t matter how many noise makers come out to yell at you. If we remain positive and think about how far we’ve come then we will be able to “block out the noise.” It doesn’t matter who says what or what occurs. We can not allow our journeys to fade because noise continues to occur. Keep living and dreaming. Always remember that those making the most noise aren’t trying to build they’re trying to tear down. Proceed with your goals, dreams, and reach your destination.

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Quoted Source: The Life Jolie (2015) Living the Pretty Life. Why you Need to Block out the “Noise.”

Transferring the Negative Into Positive

A negative situation doesn’t have to stay that way. Although it may be difficult to be positive when there’s a whole lot of negativity it can be done. If we limit our time with negative people and our time in negative environments then we will find ourselves being more positive. It’s important that we try to be positive because negativity can cause our health to decline.

We shouldn’t want to be surrounded by negative communications and people too often. Of course we will experience some negativity sometimes and in some cases quite often. If we’re unable to avoid negativity then we should find ways to improve the negative environments. We should find positive words and allow them to embed in our minds. Communicating with positive people will help keep our environments with partial positivity.

Even a little positive will help us in some way. If we’re constantly exposed to negativity then we become negative and may have difficulties becoming positive. We should try reading positive material and exposing ourselves to positive music or any activity that’s includes positivity. Life can be stressful so we need to relieve the stress and that can happen through positive experiences.

Sometimes we come in contact with some very negative people and that can leave us feeling down. In order to be lifted up we must find uplifting things. If the negativity is in front of our faces then we need to chanel that negative energy by thinking about something positive. Negativity doesn’t have to be apart of our daily lives. We can certainly be apart of positivity. Finding positive outlets will help us feel better

It’s so unhealthy when we constantly come in contact with negativity. We have to find those positive places. A change of scenery will help develop some positivity. Our minds also need to be focused on the positives if not we will suffer a decline.

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By Passing the Mess

We can’t get anything done if we focus on the chaos. There’s way too many things to accomplish. If people are trying to get you off focus. Keep the focus. Take a break if necessary but don’t allow your tasks to drown.

Anytime we’re trying to accomplish something, someone will be dusgusted with it, they’ll try to stop the process. Don’t fall into it. Even those close to you will want to hinder it. Keep going and spent less time on things that can create setbacks. If one thing isn’t working. Try something else. We can accomplish a lot of things by eliminating toxic things.

Anyone not wanting us to get ahead is toxic and messy. Avoid the mess. It can create a lot of problems for you. When we want to get most of our tasks done. We will need to spend less time on social media. Social media is filled with all sorts of tactics to create havoc for others.

Some people who refused to live their dreams will try all sorts of things to stop or hinder what others are doing. The best way to get pass this is to move on and avoid revealing your plans. Sometimes we have to keep things to ourselves because not everyone will be happy about them. If it gets extra messy then duck.

We don’t have to deal with certain things. If it won’t add value in anyway then don’t bother. We don’t need any added stress. If you’re in a messy and stressful environment then it’s best to find techniques that will make the environment better. We have to seek peace in some way and if that means disconnecting from something and people then that’s what we’ll need to do. Sometimes we put more on ourselves by staying in environments that are unhealthy for us. If we have to part ways with something then that’s what we need to do. Don’t hang on to the mess.

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Avoid Negatives and Smile

There’s some people we rather avoid. You know the type. The ones who want to be so involved that they rather give others a kick in the rear. When you see them coming, you move quickly in the other direction, that’s the type of energy they project. Too much negativity can be damaging but of course we can’t totally avoid the bad but we shouldn’t always be exposed to the negatives.

Some people may not know how to be positive so therefore everything they say or do may be perceived as negative. Sometimes negative vibes are shown because they need to gain attention. If there’s communication about their negativity and they still demonstrate it then it’s best to avoid them altogether. We don’t need to surround ourselves around people who will only drag us down.

Negative Environments

Negative environments are like an epidemic. They’re sometimes so out of control that it makes us want to stay far, far, away from such environments.  If we’re exposed to such environments for too long then we will become frustrated and fatigued. We should find positive people to share our time with and we should be exposed to some positive environments.

If we’re surrounded by negative people too often and too long then we may become negative as well. Negativity has shaken up people’s lives. Too much of it can affect our minds and that’s why we shouldn’t be exposed to it for too long. We should want joy and to be able to celebrate life. That’s hard to do if we’re consumed with negativity. We have a choice whether we want to keep company with negative friends or family.

No one has to be consumed with the negatives. If we find ourselves feeling frustrated because we’ve been exposed to negative people and environments then we should find a way to relax. Negativity generates stress and we certainly can do without stress. It’s best to find friends who love seeing people “prosper.”

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Envy Destroys Relationships

When envy presents itself, it can really create an end to any relationship, it can cause deep pain. If one chooses to be envious of another’s accomplishments or whatever they have in their lives then they risk losing whatever friendship or relationship there is. People who are envious will intentionally hurt the persons their envious of.

They either want what they have or they want them to stop shinning. Once a person displays that they have an envious nature then it’s best to eliminate time spent with them. Sometimes we may find that the people closest to us are the ones who display envious character. We may feel pain because we didn’t expect them to make us feel this way. The best thing to do when dealing with envy is to acknowledge that it exist but refuse to allow it in our space.

People who are envious will be on the attack. They may not be suited for friendship or if they’re a relative then one may have to distance themselves from their relatives. We don’t have to accept being attackedin anyway and we certainly don’t have to accept envious attacks.

It’s unfortunate when people can’t be happy for people who are trying to advance. It’s something we will have to deal with and understand that envious people exist. Just like evil exist. We may feel disappointined and sad when we come in contact with people who are envious towards us but time will allow healing.

We can choose to remain cordial with those individuals who chose to attack us but we don’t have to tolerate their behavior. Envy destroys and it disconnects. Some people may not ever stop being envious. Some may perceive their envious ways as being good but they are so wrong. Protect yourselves against envious people. They don’t deserve to be apart of your life. Instead of displaying envy. People should choose to display love.

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Find the Right way to Deal With Egos and Insecurities

“Egos want to stay relevant while dreamers keep moving” (T.Paulk). Sometimes we come across those who have over grown egos and those who are dealing with insecurities. We may feel annoyed with the egotism because it goes on and on. We must find the most effective ways to deal with these type of people.

We should first protect ourselves by limiting our time with them. If we have to deal with them in some way then we will need to observe which techniques work best. We must avoid feeding the ego and although we may become upset with the behavior. It’s important that we try to stay calm. Egotistical people feed off of reactions. They’re goal is to cause misery and to stay relevant.

We must stand up to them but find the appropriate ways to do so. An egotistical person can demonstrate bullying behavior and because of their insecurities they’re quite fearful. We should let them know that we refuse to tolerate their dysfunctional behaviors. We may have to get the law involved if the bullying transfers into threatening behavior. If we allo their tactics to go on then we’ll experience great suffering.

It’s important that anyone dealing with an egotical person remains consistent with telling them that their behavior will not be tolerated. Stand firm and mean what you say. Distance yourself from them because it can rub off on you. Don’t be fearful when standing up to them. Be stern but don’t display threatening behavior. Make eye contact if you can and refuse to listen to their explanations.

Tell them how you feel and go somewhere to occupy your mind. Egos need food and your reactions and your moods are their food. Think about some positive things and find things that offers joy for you. The worst thing anyone can do is to give in to egotistical people and to baby their insecurities. If they try to make life difficult for you then ask a professional to get involved.

Sometimes the law needs to get involved in order to prevent harm to the one on the receiving end. An ego wants attention those who display ego behavior want to feel superior. They want to be accepted somehow and they may display annoying behavior to get what they want. Don’t give in because if you do then they may perceive your actions as a means to continue their behavior.

Don’t feed egos and don’t allow anyone to drown you with their insecurities. If someone is unable to deal with not being the center of the world then that’s too bad. No one is obligated to deal with a person’s issues. They can choose to do so if they please but if they want to keep their sanity then they should seek out a professional. Be vigilant and keep your mind healthy. We may have to interact with egotistical people but they shouldn’t run our lives.

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Blame it on Everything Else

Sometimes we come in contact with someone who is so broken and they haven’t quite learned how to be functional. They over spend and blame it on the wife not being a “helpmate.” They pretend to do so much good but will rarely give to the needy. When a man takes it upon himself to punish a woman for anything he is only hurting himself. When he allows his ego to get the best of him and he spins out of control. When a man looks at life as work and doesn’t allow God or giving in his life then he will sink in misery.

If he doesn’t love himself then it would be impossible for him to love anyone else. His broken spirit will create a riff with all who come in contact with him. When he feels no joy but works the majority of his life without showing the benefits. He will become angry and feel unfulfilled. When he builds no bond with his children and they wonder why he’s in such a state. He may blame it on his wife but if he looks in the mirror closely and ask God to reveal to him who he really is then it shall be revealed.

There’s more to a man than work. If his work hasn’t create a secure home for his family and he refused to stop using his mother as a crutch then it would be difficult for him to function without those conditions. Sometimes mothers hold on so tight and the man becomes a boy when he should be a man. He may become selfish and feel that material things will satisfy him but if God isn’t in the mix then he will not be satisfied. He will toss and turn and he’ll try to knock others down to make himself feel good.

If a man constantly threatens a woman that she can not do without him then he is just reveling his vulnerability. He demonstrates the fear. The fear comes through the anger. His he really angry with the woman, the world, or his he really angry with himself? If a man feels the need to put a woman down because of her accomplishments then what is he telling himself and others about him? Men are the stronger vessel but so many are so damaged that their strength seems faded. They become trapped in their own world of rights and they may see no wrong in anything that they do.

If they are unable to treat women properly then they are doing a disservice to society. If they’re only concerned about their needs then they can’t possibly have a stability in a relationship. If all their frustrations is blamed on what someone else didn’t do then they’re filled with despair. They’re cares may only be provided if there’s something in it for them. When confronted about their actions they may rare up and become filled with rage. They may hold on do to their fear of being alone.

The man may try to convince a woman that she can not live without him and that no one will want her. He tries to brainwash her into thinking that she has no value or worth but as soon as someone comes long and convinces that she does. He will try to fight as if he’s been so concerned all along. His love isn’t there because he never learned to love himself. Deep down he really can’t stand women, he can’t stand their success, or their job titles. He has to compete with them and it angers him.

Any woman being able to put up with his control and anger will become like a slave to him. He may stay in a relationship to punish the woman. He may believe that the woman has no fight in her. That fighting with fists but with prayer and the mind. When he feels he’s losing a grip then he will try other tactics so that she’s looked upon as a nobody but his tactics on’t work because God on’t allow it. His life is based on being accepted for his work and not good deeds or helping others. How can his heart be healed through anger and malice? How?