Unfortunately a lot of mothers become so attached to their children’s lives, they feel the need to control, and cripple them. This prevents men from taking charge of their marriages and their lives. They have difficulties letting go of the apron strings. Men should have close bonds with their mothers but they shouldn’t allow their mothers to control their lives.
Matthew 19:5 states, “and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
When husbands put their mothers in front of their wives they devalue their wives. It leaves the wife feeling unappreciated and as if she can not compete with the mother. No wife should have to compete with a mother. It will cause a rift in the marriage and things could spiral out of control. Some men may feel as if their mothers should be catering to their every need and that could be one of the reasons mothers feel as if they’re allowed to control their children’s lives. It’s not just husbands who have to deal with this. Daughters as well.
It’s not easy for children to stand up to their mother or father but one can do it in a respectful way. It’s crippling when a man and woman depend on their mother for everything. That can create a detachment in the marriage. The union could feel turbulence. The couple may have to seek therapy if they want the marriage to survive. Mothers shouldn’t be isolated but they shouldn’t make their children feel guilty for loving their spouse. .
There’s a lot of pressure on a son that feels the need to please their mother. He has to deal with the mother, wife, and children. It’s not fair all on ends but their has to be a balance. Men who still have the apron strings won’t know how to release the attachments. They may feel that their lose all the rewards if they stand firm. No mother should make their child feel guilty for uniting with their spouse and especially those who call themselves “Women of God.” Allow the union to come together and if it’s not meant to be then it won’t last. “Love” your sons and daughter but don’t invade in their marriage.