Mothers Love but Don’t Control or Manipulate

Unfortunately a lot of mothers become so attached to their children’s lives, they feel the need to control, and cripple them. This prevents men from taking charge of their marriages and their lives. They have difficulties letting go of the apron strings. Men should have close bonds with their mothers but they shouldn’t allow their mothers to control their lives.

Matthew 19:5 states, “and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

When husbands put their mothers in front of their wives they devalue their wives. It leaves the wife feeling unappreciated and as if she can not compete with the mother. No wife should have to compete with a mother. It will cause a rift in the marriage and things could spiral out of control. Some men may feel as if their mothers should be catering to their every need and that could be one of the reasons mothers feel as if they’re allowed to control their children’s lives. It’s not just husbands who have to deal with this. Daughters as well.

It’s not easy for children to stand up to their mother or father but one can do it in a respectful way. It’s crippling when a man and woman depend on their mother for everything. That can create a detachment in the marriage. The union could feel turbulence. The couple may have to seek therapy if they want the marriage to survive. Mothers shouldn’t be isolated but they shouldn’t make their children feel guilty for loving their spouse. .

There’s a lot of pressure on a son that feels the need to please their mother. He has to deal with the mother, wife, and children. It’s not fair all on ends but their has to be a balance. Men who still have the apron strings won’t know how to release the attachments. They may feel that their lose all the rewards if they stand firm. No mother should make their child feel guilty for uniting with their spouse and especially those who call themselves “Women of God.” Allow the union to come together and if it’s not meant to be then it won’t last. “Love” your sons and daughter but don’t invade in their marriage.

Rebuilding a Marriage

The divorce rates are high, probably because it’s easier to get a divorce, and because people aren’t willing to make amends. Marriage is work. It’s a better for worse kind of union. An argument or arguments shouldn’t send people to divorce court, it has to be something drastic to cause one to want a divorce, God doesn’t like divorce and He would rather we try our very best to hold the marriage together.

Another reason why marriages fade away have to do with the reasons for marrying. Some people marry because of physical attraction. That is something that most likely won’t last. The physical can fade and when it does then that person will search for the next physical thing. Some marry for money, if that happens, the person with the money will lose the person if the money is no longer there. If one doesn’t marry for love then the changes of the union holding together will be slim. People can learn to love one another and that can take some time.

Couples who have different views may find themselves at war with one another. Until there’s mutual understanding, the marriage will continuously fade, and in time it will be dissolved. It’s important that praying couples continue to pray, reading the bible, and taking time to connect with one another. The best thing that married couples can do is to go to bed without being angry. Set aside the differences and make up before you both lay your heads on the pillow.

It’s time to build stronger marriages and love endlessly. Sometimes we go through deep trials and we consider giving up but it may not be a good idea. Trying to work out a marriage is a good thing, some marriages can’t be saved, and others can be salvaged through dedication. Both parties have to want it. You never know what you will find if you leave the marriage. You could find yourself in worse shape if you did. Pray for your marriage and allow God to guide you through it.

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