It begins as any other job. This is why you don’t realise where you are for a few months.
Some of the ‘shackles’ seem ‘normal’; just as signing in, signing out, dress codes, etc.
They aren’t, they are the first steps in control. They are to see how tight the screws can be turned.
The Boss from Hell will demean you, criticise everything you do, micro manage, put you under pressure for nothing. This is because he doesn’t care about the work, torturing you is what gives him pleasure.
There are those who don’t spend two weeks, those who go a month or two. Then, there are those who somehow trap themselves in Hell.
Somehow they develop unworking skills, time stealing skills, and it becomes ‘normal’. It is not until months after escape that one looks back in horror and develops a consuming hatred for the Boss.
One has to escape, even if that means taking a job where they are paid so much less, if that means having to live off of others for a time, for mental health is paramount.
If one sets a proper ‘schedule’ of leaving, that would mean they grasp their situation and rise above it. But most don’t. Most do not realise what is happening until suddenly they are considering murder or suicide or get into the kind of depression that requires medical assistance.
If one can only appreciate how the Boss is depersonalising them, how he is destroying them early enough, they can make sensible escape plans.
It would be like knowing that you will break out of prison at a certain time. If you knew that then you could prepare, but a prison break, like escaping an abusive relationship, is not so easy to devise.
In most cases it is more a malaise of spirit and then a kind of jumping without a parachute.
You just have to do it.
Don’t be afraid, that is what He taught you. He taught you to doubt yourself, he taught you that you are inferior, he taught you that you can not survive without him. Excrete that, appreciate that he is a psychopath who would be a serial killer if he wasn’t getting joy from oppression.
Many of the worst Bosses From Hell pretend to be humanitarians. They aren’t. They may push themselves forward as the leader of causes.
For example, there are those who talk about slavery reparations because they want to get the money which they will keep and not share. They want to be in the spotlight to gain power. They don’t care about anyone or anything except themselves.
The successful ones make it impossible for you to attack them, for they are at the pinnacle and you are at the bottom, so no one listens to you.
Overtime their feet of clay; [which goes to their noses] is revealed and the public begins to withdraw. But you can’t expect this to happen. For very often it is only years later… such as the Bill Cosby scandal, in which up until a few years ago he was considered such a perfect person that no one would believe anything one said bad about him.
Now, we know who and what he is, but if one dared to speak out in the days of the Eighties or Nineties, they would be stepped on.
So too, with many bosses from hell.