April 30th is International Spank Out Day. This day actually started in
1998, and the purpose is to promote non-violent discipline of
children. During this period of time, you can find many parenting
websites or blogs providing alternative ways to help guiding our
children without using the physical punishment or other punitive
I think no one deserves to be hit or spanked, and no one
has the right to harm others too, not even a parent. Children are
not our belongings, they are individuals, they belong to
themselves, not us. I just can’t imagine how a parent teaches a
child to be kind and not to harm others, but the parent hits or
spanks the child. To me, it’s even worse to hit or spank a child, as the
little one is so helpless and the child can’t even say NO to the
spanking. It also teaches the child “violence” is the only way to solve the problem.
I have to confess that I did yell at my children and still scold them sometimes, but I believe this is not a good way to bring up the children. There are more gentle or peaceful parenting methods for us to guide our children, with love and warmth. I am still learning and hopefully I will be a peaceful and joyful mom one day. I think meditation does help me to improve a lot.
I actually learned this SpankOut Day from Parenting Beyond Punishment. This parenting site is having this annual Peaceful Parenting noSpank Challenge since 2 years ago. You will gain a lot of information about the peaceful parenting ways, instead of using spanking, swatting, yelling, screaming, shaming and other punitive attempts. I think this is a very good online event, and it’s free. If you have missed it this year, perhaps you can check it out next year.
I would like to commit to not even get angry or scold my children, and I have been learning that. Though I haven’t been able to do it NOW, I know I will be there SOON.
Would you like to commit not to spank or hit your children?