Many people might not know this about me, but I have had an awful relationship with my dad. In fact, there were a few years that went by when we never even spoke a single word to each other. It was pretty rough, and I felt awful through all of it. However, as I got older, I realized how important it was to me to have a relationship with him. So I’ve been working on it. And, since I’ve had a child I’ve been working even harder to repair the damage.
He is still kind of skeptical of me, and I know that he doesn’t put in a full effort into fixing our awful fights, but at least he is kind of trying.
However, I got a huge surprise yesterday. I was talking to him about Christmas and about how I wished I could be home to visit with the family, and he was agreeing. It’s hard being military, and the fact that my husband works in the hospital makes it that much harder for him to get time off. We couldn’t get enough time off this year, so we can’t go home for the holiday. It’s such a bummer. But hopefully we can make it home next year.
Anyway, I got off the phone with my dad. But, a few minutes later he called me back. He must have talked it over with his wife, and they decided that they are finally going to make a trip out to see us! I’m excited and nervous at the same time. I mean, I can’t remember the last time we spent more than three hours together, and I’m wondering what he will think of my house.
But, most of all, I’m grateful because he will really get the chance to get to know my little one, and I want him to know and love her like a good grandpa should. He hasn’t spent much time with her, so it’s hard for him to feel close to her. Hopefully that will be changed after their visit!