All parents do the best they can for their kids. It may not be perfect, but it’s their very best effort. But, we all look at our own parents, and while there are some things we would like to adopt from them, there are a few things we want to do differently. We always want our kids to have more or better than what we had when we were young.
My parents did a really great job. They celebrated every birthday and holiday, and they always managed to buy us gifts and such. They participated in our school activities, and my mom even became the leader of my Girl Scout troop.
They spent quality time with us, and they never used a family get-together to start drinking. In fact, I never saw my mom drunk until I was almost 18 years old. They never abused drugs, and they tried their best to set a good example. My mom was always after me to “act like a lady,” to which I would respond, “I don’t want to be a lady.” She always won in the end.
And, when the split, my mom did an amazing job providing for her children. Even though she was working full time, I never felt like I missed out. She was a really great mom.
However, there is one thing that I want to change. My mom was super obsessed with having a clean house, which sometimes meant sacrificing time with her kids. She said this is her biggest regret in life.
So, instead, I prioritize my child’s entertainment and education. I make it a point to leave the house at least three times a week to go do something that’s specifically for her enjoyment. I take her to playgrounds, the mall, the library, and several other places where she can have fun. And, if the dishes stay in the sink, so be it.
I hope that my little one appreciates how much time and effort I spent on her when she gets older. I want her to feel loved and special, and I want her to experience so many things. I think I’m headed in the right direction, so far.
I guess we’ll see!