The Pursuit of Happiness and How to Obtain It
June 6, 2014 by mikedee1080
I’ve been a “bad” person. I’ve been egotistical, selfish, jealous, hateful, and all the other negative emotions associated with humanity. Over the years, however, I have tried to formulate a belief system that’s conducive to true happiness, not only for me but those in my community as well. I don’t know that this belief is right, nor do I follow it very well, but it’s the closest I’ve gotten to truly understanding myself and others. In my opinion, there are 3 essential attributes needed for healthy and happy living: empathy, acceptance and modesty.
Empathy, or the ability to place oneself in another’s shoes, is the first step to unconditional happiness. If you can understand a person’s POV, you’ll seldom get upset, even if you don’t agree.
Accepting people for who they are, flaws and all, is the second step to a fulfilling life without the negative weight of the darker human emotions. Acceptance removes expectations and disappointment, and allows one to live life without hatred or malice towards another’s’ beliefs.
Modesty, or “keeping your ego in check”, is the last and most important of these positive attributes. Living a humble life without the need to “one-up” or outdo others allows the True Self to control the personality instead of the Ego, and it relieves the soul of harmful and stressful, negative emotions.
I am the first to admit that I do not exemplify these qualities. However, I am trying and therein lies a happiness all its own.