Teaching My Children
I have been doing a lot of thinking lately. I was asked not that long ago what it is I wanted to teach my children. Well, that is a very loaded question. So I am going to take a minute here and explain what I want to teach my children.
About family: First and foremost, that no one will ever love them as much as I do. No one will ever be as supportive as those who love you. Family is not always blood either. Some family members are just kind of gained. They could be related by blood, marriage or just friends who care enough about them to be considered family. Family is and always will be the center of your world as long as I have anything to do with it.
About siblings: at 2 and 4 I am pretty sure these sweet little moments won’t last. Those moments when she wants her bubby and he wants his sissy are going to fade into “I hate him” and “She’s annoying”. But although they have an older brother and an older sister, they are 11 and 12 years older than these two. By the time that they are going to truly need that connection with them (they don’t see them now) those two will be married and probably having children of their own. So as much as it pains me to say it, they really only have that connection with each other. A brother and sister bond that I am sure will be as deep as it is important. But I need them to know that when life gets the hardest, when you have siblings, you have someone to help you. A love that is never ending.
About education: At 36 I am finally back in school to get my degree. Do not get me wrong I wouldn’t change having them for anything, but I wish I was more financially stable, to provide only the best that life has to offer. So on this topic, all I can really tell them is to take what you feel is in your heart and run with it. Use your life experiences for the greater good of others. Do not ever stop. Never and I mean NEVER give up.
About relationships: I am probably not the best person to talk about this, but I will sure try. No relationship is perfect. But when you truly love someone, and I don’t care if it’s a man or woman for either of you, just love with all you have inside of you. A relationship isn’t 50/50 it’s 100% of both. If you both aren’t giving your relationship all you have then don’t be in it. If you can look at that person from across the table and see yourself with them in 50 years, and smile, then don’t let that go. Basically, love with everything you have inside of you. But do not ever question that little intuition you feel, if it’s telling you something isn’t right, then listen to it.
About life: Wow, this is a rough one. But at the same time that it’s rough, it’s easy. Please don’t ever forget that you are never, ever completely alone. There is always someone that will care. Do not ever turn a blind eye to someone else’s pain. They may simply just need a smile from you. Listen with an open heart and most of all an open mind. Take a moment each day to find something positive. It is not supposed to be easy, but if it is awesome. All I want for the both of you is just be happy. Live every moment of this life like you’ll never get another. Take a deep breath, and just when you think your fear is going to overwhelm you, leap. Don’t take the people you love or that love you for grated, because at that instant they could be taken from you. So even though it seems a bit trite and silly all I am really trying to say is this: Live life to the fullest, Love with all you have, and Laugh as much as you can.