Ching Ming Festival which is also known as the Tomb Sweeping day, is one of the of well respected festival
where the Chinese families sweep the tombs their deceased
relative of family members.
This festival is alike christian’s All Souls Day.
Yesterday, we woke up at 5am in the morning, got ready, had a
light breakfast and set off to the memorial park where my deceased
father-in-law was buried.
Upon reaching the park, there were many vehicles parked along the stretch of the road, families bringing along little children,teens and
old folks visiting their beloved deceased family members.
One thing particular about my in-laws family is; there weren’t
any school age children nor teenagers to pay respect to their
Do you know why?
Funny superstitions which I could not believed in my ears.
It is compulsory for the sons of my father-in-laws
to perform tomb sweeping day as part of the Chinese culture
In addition, the children of the sons are required to attend but
they would rather keep their children
including teens off the burial ground for superstitions belief.
My brother in laws and sister in laws believed that children are
advised not to step onto the burial ground in order to keep
them off “bad luck”
A memorial site is a place where the deceased are being buried which is considered unlucky for children
to visit even to pay respect to their dearest grandparents.
Unlucky is the reasons but there are a few other reasons that
sums up :
- Dirty place to step on
- Unlucky to bring back bad luck home
- Children might disturb the deceased spirits
- Children couldn’t stand the scoreline heat under open air
- Inconvenient for them to pee when required
Hence, since my father-in-law had passed away for the last few years, none of his grandchildren of his daughters and sons had ever visited the memorial park on Ching Ming Festivals.
Fortunately, my hubby isn’t the superstition type of son.
Instead, he strongly encouraged my school age son and teenager daughter to visit their grandfather tomb, pay their respects
In addition, he also asked me to come along even though I could not touch the incense , joss sticks or
any prayer materials since I am a Christian.
He said that giving tons of excuses to exempt young children
from attending Ching Ming is disloyal, inducing farther distance
of relationship between the deceased and the future
In the near future, our young generations may not attend Ching Ming festival anymore after the big mistake that parents themselves
had embedded into their mind set.
Who then would pay respect to you when you passed away then?
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