Have you noticed that people are not allowed to be unhappy, not even in the least.
In fact, if you are a female, you are not even allowed to have a “resting” face. Don’t beleive me? Think back on how many times you’ve been told to smile. For no reason other than because you were not smiling.
Some people say that smiling, whether you feel like it or not, can actually make you BE happer.
This is not always the case.
Studies have shown that people who smile not because they are happy, but JUST to mask their more negative emotions, begin to associte smiling with UNHAPINESS.
Through research this study found that people who did not usually smile when they were happy actually felt WORSE when they smile more frequently. The people who often smiled when happy felt better when they smiled.
So, if you are natural smiler then smiling can possibly make you feel better. But if you’re natural inclination isn’t to break a huge grin every chance you get, then forcing yourself to smile will make your mood worse, not better.
Not to mention, when someone tells you to smile it is USUALLY a guy telling a woman to smile.
Because a smile is more pleasant for them to look at.
Yep, the guy wants you to smile, because HE thinks you look better when you smile and HE wants something easy on the eyes. It’s not really about caring for the well being of the non-smiling person. It’s all about desire and attraction.
If you really do care for someone and want them to be happier, then just commanding them to smile isnt the solution.
What do you do?
Don’t say, “You’d be happier if you smiled” or “You’d be pretty if you’d smile.” you should do something FOR them to make them smile.
Give them a compliment. Give them a gift. Tell them a joke. Do something to brighten their day and EARN that smile.